Archive | September, 2011

#LawsMenShouldFollow: Be Consistent!

27 Sep

[Trigger warning for prostitution & sexual violence.]

#LawsMenShouldFollow is currently trending on Twitter. I went a-searching to see if others shared my take on the hashtag. And lookee what I found!

A few misconceptions:

1. That rape is simply “stupid” rather than an act of soul-crushing dehumanization used systematically and globally by males, against females.
2. That paying a prostitute is something other than tactical coercion to get a woman to “consent”.
3. That rape is about being sexually “desperate” rather than about men asserting dominance and control over women.

Now, as a humorous palette cleanser also in the vein of “men are awful hypocrites”:

Yeah! The Situation is totally correct, ya’ll. As is the juggalo who agrees with him. Dudes shouldn’t be high maintenance!

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Men at Work

27 Sep

While I’m all for investing in infrastructure, I’m really starting to resent the message of “put our construction workers back on the job!” when my greatest prospect is becoming a minimum-wage secretary at one of these construction companies.

At least I can pretend to be one on Halloween!

Related reading:

Alternet: “The Recession’s Hit Women Hard, but the Myth of ‘Mancession’ Won’t Die” by Alice O’Connor

New Hub Post: “Bachmann, HPV Vaccines, & Female Credibility”

16 Sep

Just like the title says! It took me literally all night to write because of the massive linkage and research needed. Reward my bizarre sleep patterns and check it out!

Porn & “Plot”

12 Sep

[Trigger warning for descriptions of pornography.]

Many women who say they like porn often include a caveat: “But I like it to have some plot”. So-called “feminist pornographers” and production companies who specialize in  “woman-friendly” or “couple’s” porn know this market well. The explanation provided for this reported taste discrepancy between women and men usually involves an allusion to hunters and gatherers and/or a reference to a caveman dragging a woman by her hair back to the cave. Where patriarchal paleo fantasies and evolutionary psychology fail, some kind of anatomical hypothesis is provided. Dudes get obvious erections. . . lady bits are so static and mysterious!

I have a new hypothesis. Women report to want “plot” in pornography because it makes the porn look less overtly like rape.

When a scenario such as PIV or any other penis-centric sexual act just suddenly happens, without any discussion or anything, that can look pretty scary. (Who is that man and why is he shoving his dick down that woman’s throat?) To take the edge off of what would potentially appear “iffy” in some way, plot comes in to smooth over the more clearly disturbing aspects of what you’re watching.

Additionally, plot in porn further mainstreams pornography, and, as with ‘features’, make the movies appear Hollywood-esque. This added legitimacy also gets used against feminists or anyone who dares to call porn violent or misogynistic. They say that anti-porn feminists overstate our case just because there exists a niche market for porn that isn’t as upfront with the “we hate women” message. Either way, it’s still there. Another way in which porn’s violence is excused is by giving the token example of female, nay, FEMINIST!!1 pornographers. As shown in this study of aggressive acts within mainstream pornography, female directors aren’t much less likely to tone down the violence. [Male-directed: 85.2% of scenes included agression, female-directed: 77%. Email me if you would like the entire article. More on the results of the study can be found here.]

Several years ago, I was one of the women who claimed to like her pornography “to have a little bit more of a story to it”. I said this after my then-boyfriend had shown me some ‘funny’ parts of porn one night. One of the noncontextualized clips he showed me was of two women giving blow jobs to over a dozen men who were all standing around a pool. Each man ejaculated onto the women’s faces, and then each woman would move onto another man. Nothing was funny about this, obviously. I was upset and confused as to why my boyfriend would think this was funny (though he wasn’t laughing either). He asked what I though, because he could tell I wasn’t into it. Having not read any porn critiques, all I could communicate was, “I just. . . feel sorry for those women.” He replied immediately, “You’d feel differently if you knew how much money they were making.” I didn’t have a response at the time, so I submit the following reply retroactively: no, I do not feel fucking differently, you porn-addicted jackass.

Around this time, I also had told him about my extensive NC-17-rated film collection. Looking back, I think I did it to impress him and show him I wasn’t a prude. He scoffed and said, “That’s nothing.” I guess something like that is ‘nothing’ compared to the afternoons he’d spend watching a plethora of cum shots.

Interestingly, this was also a period in my life when I was writing a lot of erotica. Believe it or not, though, none of my stories were simply: “They fucked and he came on her tits THE END.” Indeed, I included both plot and character development to buffer the PIV-centric narratives I was so fond of writing back then.

Even with some semblance of half-hearted plot, porn still looks violent to many women (because it is violent). While the storyline of a couple being on their honeymoon covers up some of the violence with cheesy romance, the violence remains. The use of women for men’s sexual purposes is still the subject. Debasement is always porn’s plot.