Born & Raised

4 Jun

[Trigger warning for prostitution and sexual violence.]

“Since patriarchy began, prostitution is the only work for which men pay women enough to support themselves.” – Marilyn French, “The War Against Women”

The above quote sums up, essentially, what exactly men value in women. Prostitution is the ‘job’ that nearly any person who was born female can do. The prerequisites for such ‘work’ are that, as a female, you will likely have a history of abuse and/or have few or no other options to earn money.

When men do allow girls and women to make some amount of money through prostitution, it is still always conditional. The john could outrightly rape you with no intention of paying you. Your pimp could take all of your money in exchange for his ‘protection.’ You could become ill. Not every girl or woman who is prostituted actually does make enough money to support herself (or her family/children), of course, though it is often still the best option for income out of a number of other terrible options.

Prostitution remains one way of making money that females are uniquely conditioned for their entire lives. Being told — subtly or overtly — your entire life that you are inferior, that you are made to service and care for men, that your needs always come second, the presumption of heterosexuality. . . even if raised as part of a higher economic class, girls are taught that they do not exist for their own purposes. Add the common psychological effects of sexual assault (believing that your sexuality is all you have to offer, etc.) and the stage is entirely set.

Growing up female under patriarchy, though, is all one needs to fall into prostitution either willingly or not.

4 Responses to “Born & Raised”

  1. radfemcrafts June 4, 2011 at 5:39 pm #

    Right on. Love this post.

  2. zeph June 5, 2011 at 9:08 am #

    Good post.

  3. survivorthriver June 6, 2011 at 6:49 pm #

    Yup, women are scripted to please males from get-go under patriarchy.

    Speaking from experience damn it and recovered!

  4. Amanda November 24, 2013 at 1:34 pm #

    I am an ex-prostitute, or “escort” as some would call me. I ran away from home due to mental and physical abuse. I stayed with some friends here and there and did not want to go to a shelter. I answered an ad for ” hostesses” in the paper. Turned out to be a prostitution ad. Soon I had an apt. And Almost anything I wanted, including all the drugs to be able to numb myself good from what I was actually doing with men. I had a ton of work being 19. I was raped when I was 20, and my drug use became worse. I almost overdosed. After all of the sex I didn’t really want to have, the emotional and sexual abuse, my insanely large drug habit, me getting genital herpes, and a bad strain of hpv, I quit for good. I saw things women should never see. I felt the way a human being should never have to feel. Soon, all I could relate to was johns and other escorts. I was lost in a dangerous, abusive, sick, disgusting, draining, nightmarish world. I don’t recommend prostitution to my worst enemy. I got into it not as a choice, but because I was homeless and desperate. I curse all of the men out there who buy and rape girls and women for money. You are helping screw up a female for life! I am a radical feminist now, and have never looked back.

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