When the Porn Runs Out…

24 Dec

[Trigger warning for sexual violence.]

I just finished emotionally trudging through reading the new post over at Aileen’s place on something called Fucked Toys. Trigger warning applies to that post too, which includes some photos further down the page.

You know how Gail Dines says that the pornographers she interviews say that they’re running out of things [to do to women]? That they’re trying to find the next ‘extreme’ thing? Yeah. God dammit if this isn’t just another new thing with which to degrade women’s bodies.

It’s not like this violent stuff doesn’t exist in porn already. It certainly does. But for a man to be able to buy ‘toys’ like this will only further ingrain misogynistic desires for these types of things. A sex toy that vomits on your penis. A sex toy resembling a prolapsed anus. No really.

It’s one thing to watch it, it’s another to act out on a ‘toy’ what you have watched… and what’s next after that gets old? Who’s next? Your girlfriend? Your wife? Your daughter? That tipsy girl at a party? That woman walking back home from the bus stop at night?

If you seriously think that what you consume through media has no effect on how you figure yourself in the world, how you think about other people, what you come to value… well, you really need some media studies 101. If you think that sticking your dick into a synthetic tube meant to mimic a woman’s mouth and using the ‘vomit-like lubricant’ the ‘toy’ came with isn’t going to mentally connect that pleasure with that degradation… you’re also wrong. If you think that once that act isn’t extreme enough for the man because he wants it to be ‘more real’ that he won’t try finding a willing woman to reenact it? And if he fails, that he won’t try coercing a woman into it? That he won’t just outright assault a woman? Wrong. He will. Because it’s the violence that makes it ‘more real’. What he sees in porn is a man (himself) shoving his dick down a woman’s throat until she gags and throws up. Then comes the toy that will do that ‘in real life’, because a toy can’t say no. But flesh-and-blood women can. And when they do say no? Or when they finally just say ‘get it over with’ after repeated pressuring from a man? Then what will he do? He wants it, he’ll have it.

Male entitlement plus desires for extremely violent ‘sex’ will inevitably lead to rape in some cases. When you can’t just rewatch the video of it, when the hole you’re fucking isn’t just a rubber tube in your hand… then what?

3 Responses to “When the Porn Runs Out…”

  1. Aileen Wuornos December 24, 2010 at 1:55 am #

    Oh goddess, I didn’t even think about the orgasm association thing. I just saw it and wanted to fucking shit bricks.

    “Male entitlement plus desires for extremely violent ‘sex’ will inevitably lead to rape in some cases. When you can’t just rewatch the video of it, when the hole you’re fucking isn’t just a rubber tube in your hand… then what?”

    Exactly! And all the sex-pozzers who like to think that watching porn won’t make men hate womyn and girls more, well, I’d tell them to look at that. I don’t think a single one of those was actually marketed towards womyn.

    • lishra December 24, 2010 at 2:11 am #

      I didn’t go beyond the “You must be 18 years old to visit this website” page, because I reconsidered and decided I didn’t want all that hellishness in my head before going to bed. But from what I saw in your post, yeah… it’s about penetration, i.e.: male-centered sex. I googled the stuff and found out they have a “disfigured penis” toy or something too, but I doubt there’s a female market for that either.

      Can you imagine a woman buying one of the penetrable toys and, like, just sticking her fingers in it as a way of arousing herself? It’s for dudes and dicks.

      • Aileen Wuornos December 24, 2010 at 2:17 am #

        Prozactly! Fair enough too, although I have a really strong stomach and soul for a lot of this shit.

        No, I really can’t. The menstruation fuckhole too, most womyn and girls spend their lives vehemently denying that they even menstruate, and if it’s fetishised before it’s even accepted by those who do it, what the hell chance do we have?

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